Women Can Change India

I read somewhere recently that Life is Cheap in India (all South-Asian Countries). There are just so many people that there is no value of a single individual. I don’t even want to get into the stats of how many kids are born each day in India and how many people die. Population has been our problem and every one knows that. There are various scheme government initiates to encourage couples to have just 2 kids. I recently came across this One Child Policy (Click) and read how China implemented it along with its Pros and Cons. If you have read these articles, you will notice that negatives of this policy are only because of the way Chinese Government IMPLEMENTED it. What India needs to do is simple, Encourage ONLY one birth per woman and ADOPTIONS!! It is surprising how Chinese government did not use the adoption as the cure of all problems. In case you do not have much idea about negative effects of One Child Policy, I’ll brief you!

  • Skewed sex ratio (Way More Men Than Women) : Now I fail to understand this. If there is a boy preference dogma in the society, couples will keep producing till they get a son. If the first kid is a boy, they need not produce again at all. If not, it increases number of women, How does this policy decreases the number of women for every 1000 men? In any case, my post is for Urban Women and they (I am sure) do not believe in this rubbish Boy-is-better-than-Girl drama. And even if you want a boy & you get a girl or vice-a-versa, GO ADOPT!!! (Here I believe that Urban Women are smart enough to know the side-effects abortions & female infanticide have. So, I believe they won’t stoop down to THAT level at least!! )

P.S. And irrespective of all this, if there are too many men for women, I think it is perfect! Guys will have to work hard and be their best self. 😛 This is what I call Women Empowerment! Yo Ladies, high-five!!

  • The 4-2-1 ratio: This means that the single kid has responsibility of 2 parents & 4 Grand parents. This makes people believe that the only kid will be over burdened and not able to handle responsibility! Hello, did you notice the money you saved by not getting the second child? Go, get yourself a nurse! Nurse will any day take better care of you than your child (boy or girl). And you also generate employment. This is called win-win!!
  • The Emperor Syndrome: Some analysts believe that if the Child won’t have a sibling, parents will over indulge in their only child and make the child a snob (No, they did not use that word. But what do you call a person who does not mingle with other kids &  is over indulged by parents?) This analysis I found the funniest! Are they trying to tell that parents do not know their limits? They are almost 25-30!! They should already know. And what is this thing about not mingling with others? Who said kids only mingle with their siblings? What happened to schools kids & society kids & tuition/classes??

These are the only negatives I came across, if you know more, comment & let me know. I am sure I will have loads to say about that as well. Anyway, I don’t want to talk about JUST the policy. I’ll tell you how women can change India. Just Imagine, If all women decide to give birth to only one child (and you can adopt as many as you want), how brilliant it will be! The constant resources like land (agricultural , Forest & residential) , water, Food, Petrol etc will be available in abundance for us(Well not really abundance, but you get the point)! Nobody will die out of hunger because agricultural land will still be there, what will govt do with the excessive production (Hopefully not let it rot or export)? Traffic will be reduced to half. Oh, I can already dream about it. Right now we wait for 60 seconds (or more) on traffic signals, we will just have to wait for 30 seconds!! Our normal roads will have half the vehicles, it will be like driving on highways! best part will be residential area! We will have so much land for our houses!!

I don’t know why Indian Government does not promote adoption effectively. Whenever I hear about a celebrity adopting kids, I start respecting them. Sushmita Sen earned my respect by adopting 2 girls! There aren’t many famous Adopted Indians but I found out that Naval Tata (father of Ratan Tata) was adopted son. Also Maharaja Sayajirao Gaekwad III (Ruler of Vadodara, Gujarat) was not the born heir to the throne, he was adopted. In fact, His son was the first boy who would actually be the first direct born heir to the throne of the Gaekwads in four generations.

You know how we always talk about doing our bit for the country? This is your chance! Only you can do it and nobody else (This is a Shout-out to all the ladies!!) Please promise yourself that you will give birth to only one child, if you like lot of kids, ADOPT!!! More importantly, talk to all your girl friends about this. And when you go to any one’s marriage, make sure you talk to the bride about this!! Go Girl!!!



14 thoughts on “Women Can Change India

  1. Anybody can change India with some determination. But the real win-win situation will begin if both men and women do it together..
    One kid is good but s/he would always need the efforts of parents, and not just a man or a woman, to grow into a responsible human.
    Instead of negative population growth, I would like to have a stable one for India. Instead of one kid, a single family can have two. I believe, children learn a lot in the company of their siblings.
    Hope you wd agree too.

    • By this Blog, I want to make Urban women believe in having one kid. We all know that in any urban couple, a man & a woman are equals when it comes to making an important decision like Family Planning. As for Population growth, I think a little negative growth can be beneficial right now. And about the “children learn a lot in the company of their siblings.” I have been promoting the idea of adoption through out my post! 🙂

      • Agree totally. I was just saying the ideal thing and tried to make the author talk. This is what I do at my blog. I try to make people talk and discuss with little success. We really need sm organisations which can pursuade people to adopt homeless kids in large numbers.

  2. Dhara,
    the sex ratio is skewed to due abortion of a female foetus and female infanticide.
    The problem with the argument ur making is that its not the women who decide how many children to have. Its a sad fact. While in a ideal world, the final decision would lie with the to-be mother, in the world that is not how things work.

    What you are really talking about is a chain reaction. Women get empowered ( and they have to do more for this than men) and become more independent. Only this can lead to a world as you would desire and the picture for which you paint above 🙂

    You write really well 🙂

    • Hey Prakash, In India, scenarios differ state to state and urban to rural. By this blog, I want to show a nice picture to Urban Indian Women to BELIEVE in giving birth to one child (girl or boy is God’s gift, if you want the other gift, adopt!)

      And thank you! 🙂

    • I agree with him. Even in case of Urban women the decision of how many children does not completely belong to her. Hell, the decision of “when to have children” is not a luxury for her. And it is still Ideal to have 2 kids and adoption is Not-so-popular. I hope to God this does have an effect on people. (Certainly had on me!)

      • We really need to stop saying that a woman can’t choose it, we need to make a woman aware that she can do it. And as such, if a woman does not want to get pregnant, she can’t. She can consume daily birth control pills (obv after consulting a gynaec) w/o informing the Grand Parents etc. I mean, If females start believing in this, it can totally happen, ways can be found. Only point is to make them believe in this cause & spreading awareness about it!

  3. it is certainly a great idea and as far as i can see, its a total win-win situation but i’m afraid its still a very distant possibility in India.

    • I don’t know, I feel it is almost our generation’s time to be pregnant. If we do this, in 25 years, our population should have a negative growth. That in itself is a feat to achieve!

      • I am skeptic coz there is a major section of population who’s still living in villages and even though girls our age may think like us the grandparents certainly don’t and sadly (and god knows why) they have a lot of say in this matter. (I’m saying this coz i know many ppl like that).

    • All i can say is Grand parents have had their time. Now we need to stand up for what we want. If a couple is convinced for this, i doubt grand parents can do anything more than crib!

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