Have you ever had a very close friend who did something you will never forget? Better yet, have you ever done something to your friend which you think was right but your friend hates you for that?
In earlier times, there was a clear definition of Black and White, Demon and Angel, Bad and Good. The were more of “Don’t Do”s than “Do”s. Everyone noticed, commented and ordered you against your choice if you talked loudly or returned home late or talked to opposite gender or fell in love or expressed your opinion in front of elders etc. The list of “Do”s was limited up to grow up, marry, have kids, respect others & live your family lives.
If you cross the wrong line, you were no different from a murderer. You were to become an outcast or even worse, beaten & killed. Thankfully the next generation took it forward. People are more independent and less scared. But this has blurred the line between right and wrong. Now you can kill someone and still not be an evil (Remember Hrithik’s movie Guzaarish?). We can’t categorize people in Black and White. We say that unless you are in their shoes, you won’t know the reason of the sin they commit, we say everyone has a reason for a wrong choice. Bad choices are a part of the lives we live. We say we learn and move on. (Remember, I call it a lesson learned?). Don’t we all have friends who made mistakes of dating wrong people? We still forgive them because we know they are not a Saint and so they are allowed to make mistakes. And since they are not a Sinner, they are still our friends.
We forgive politicians for non-performance, parents for emotional & physical pain, friends for back-stabbing, partners for wrong choices and so-on. I have known of people forgiving humiliation, violence and even infidelity (God knows, after all the movies I watch, I am scared of not being completely loyal myself!!). Worst thing you can do, darkest thought you can have, people close to you tend to forgive it all. But how much is too much after all?